Five Questions to Ask When You Have Been Offended, Hurt, or Are In Conflict 

Five Questions to Ask When You Have Been Offended, Hurt, or Are In Conflict 

Copyright Dave Wiedis, and Laura Nagy, 2022

Relational pain is common. Most of us have experienced being hurt, or have walked with loved ones and friends who have experienced significant offenses from others in their lives. At ServingLeaders we provide counseling and mediation services to help individuals, ministry teams, and families who have been in, or are currently experiencing, significant conflict and pain. While our overall goal is to facilitate healing between wounded parties, we also help each participant to engage in significant reflection on their own experiences, wounding, and heart. 

Here are five reflection questions we often ask that may help anyone seeking to navigate moments of conflict and pain with love, integrity, wisdom, honesty, and compassion…

Reflections From My Sabbatical: Six Months Post-Reentry 

Reflections From My Sabbatical: Six Months Post-Reentry 

Copyright Dave Wiedis, 2022

This past summer I had the opportunity to take a sabbatical from May-August. It was a long time coming. In the 15 years that I have been leading ServingLeaders, I have never taken a formal, planned sabbatical. In fact, I had never taken a sabbatical in my life. I knew that it was overdue, and even as I began to make plans, it became clear that I had waited too long. In the year before my sabbatical, as I began planning for it, I hit a wall and took an unplanned break for five weeks to rest and recover through the month of September. I was exhausted and I couldn’t ignore it.

I believe, more than ever, that a “sabbath rhythm” should be prioritized and planned so that we can steward our ministries well and can keep that precious gift of our ministry calling from being squandered.

Expectations and Hope in the Contractions of Winter

Expectations and Hope in the Contractions of Winter

Penny Freeman, Copyright 2022

Projecting hope for the holidays is meant to “get us through” this dark season, and yet for most of us the bar is set high with expectations instead of hope. This sets us up for a frenzy of meeting expectations and then crashing afterwards. We long for a feast that invites us to feel full but not stuffed–to enter a house feeling the welcome of belonging. We hope for laughter, warmth, joy and delicious food–that IS what commercials are selling as “hope” during the televised breaks of parades and football games, after all; and yet hope mishandled leads to burdening expectations that will inevitably let us down…

Member Care in Missions: Why It’s So Important

Member Care in Missions: Why It’s So Important

Caroline Kishbaugh, Copyright 2022

After 25 years on the mission field, first in Haiti and then in France, Carl and I felt led to transition from cross-cultural church planting to providing member care to missionaries. That was 14 years ago.

While we loved what we were doing, the longer we were on the field the more we saw the lack of resources, isolation and dire need for care of those serving on the front lines. Our own circumstances and experiences played a role in our shift to member care, forming a conviction of the necessity to come alongside our missionary colleagues for their encouragement and well-being. Our hope was that this would result in increased resilience and efficacy in ministry no matter where they served. And it has borne much fruit! Here is part of our story.

A Liturgy of Dependence and the Lure of Self-Sufficiency

A Liturgy of Dependence and the Lure of Self-Sufficiency

Joe Bruni, Copyright 2022

One of the primary habit-forming practices in our world and particularly in our country today is that of self-sufficiency. The “sovereign self” is an ultimate good in our culture today, and we are being shepherded to believe that the purest form of identity formation and expression come from within, independent of others’ influences or constraints. It is the power of pride and the myth of self-sufficiency that we celebrate and see on display in media, marketing, art, and pop-culture. It should not surprise us then that these same rhythms of independence and self-sufficiency are on display in ministry leadership today, as well.

The Significance of an Ordinary Life

The Significance of an Ordinary Life

Tucker Else, Copyright 2022

Every person you will come in contact with will be affected by you - the power of Christ in you. At ServingLeaders, we believe that caring for pastors and ministry leaders is so important precisely because of the impact you will have on your churches, families, and friends. There will be a ripple effect, wherein Christ’s kingdom will advance more and more as people are exposed to the Good News of Jesus Christ. Through you!

Symptoms and Root Causes of Pastoral Burnout (Part 2)

Symptoms and Root Causes of Pastoral Burnout (Part 2)

Chip Roper, Copyright 2022

Change delivers a “you can never go back there again” moment. Pastors, in particular, have felt this as “nearly two in five pastors have considered quitting full-time ministry,” according to Barna. When you leave your church as a pastor, your experience fits this category. At some point, the momentum takes over and even if you have regrets, even if you have job-changers remorse, you are stuck in the pull of an irresistible force. Change is happening and you cannot stop it.

Every leadership position is temporary. At some point, you will leave your leadership position. It’s been my story. After 19 years as a lead pastor in a church outside of Philadelphia, I found myself in the throes of transition.

Humility, Generous Friendship, and the Steadfast Suffering of Careful Thinking

Humility, Generous Friendship, and the Steadfast Suffering of Careful Thinking

Joe Bruni, Copyright 2021

There is a common, underlying thread of faithful leadership that in my estimation is the foundation for fruitfulness and excellence in life and ministry. By my own personal experience I can speak to the direct impact of John Stott’s leadership and legacy in the way it impacted the life and ministry of John Yates, whom I’ve known as a pastor, teacher and friend. His reflections on Stott’s legacy are important for us as we consider the future of ministry leadership.